Secrets, not Choices

"Every one says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive ... And then, to mention the subject at all is to be greeted with howls of anger." --Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis


 BOOK 3 PART 7, Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

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Often in the business of forgiveness it's secrets not choices that rule the day, and we feel we cannot forgive, forgive our self for things gone wrong. Holding oneself responsible may be the single most difficult task. To do so delivers one to a state without fear, a place of courage and clarity through carefully revisiting and re-inspecting the details of a harmful situation. The task of examining intention and motive are often not easy. There may be some ill will involved, some jealousy or malice. These may have been spoken or not.

The truth gives one the power to make decisions. Armed with information, good reliable information, one is able to realistically make assessments and base action taken on solid ground. On the contrary when we make and hold onto secrets, they, not the truth often drive our thoughts and behavior towards secrecy, towards deception and deceit. So it is secrets not choices that make for the unforgiven.
I have learned your secrets not so much to pry as to see clearly to forgive you. I know. It's not a secret. So forgive yourself.